Why is My Toddler So Angry?
A picture -- especially one in motion --is worth more than a thousand words. There are plenty of instances where words do not need to be said to understand someone's emotions; their actions and facials expressions are more than enough. Screaming, shouting, pouting, crying, and furried eyebrows are reactions that are no stranger to toddlers, we expect them. However, there are times when we simply do not understand where it is coming from or the point of it. They have arms and legs too and they will know how to use it! You may be struggling with your little one some days as they punch, kick or even bite you.
In this situation it can be easy to forget just how different a child is from an adult mentally when their behavior is sour; however you should not freak out or grow mad at them even after you have done all you could to console them with no change. Infants, toddlers, and kids are often similar in the sense they are extremely sensitive anytime their needs are not provided. There are two types of anger that a toddler will go through in their own way. One of them, known as developmental anger, is expressed when they go through new adaptive phases as they grow.
They will grow frustrated over minor things such as being in a new environment or when they are learning how to walk. Interpersonal anger is when they start to show signs they want to be independent and explore but are not given the okay. Ever tell your kid they can't have a cookie and they behave dramatically? They will be angry because you, the parent, are not reacting the way they want and crying or lashing out is their defense mechanism to get what they want. It is hard for a child to fully express themselves at times too in words when they want to say or feel something. They may also be upset due to guilt, empty promises, unfairness, intimidation, or teasing.
How Can I Manage My Toddler's Anger?
Parents may try to sooth their anger because it grows tiresome to deal with after a whole. We can be overly permissive or try bribing as a way to calm them neither of which are ideal. You do want your child to express themselves rather than keep it in, but if you believe they are acting completely out of control and your goal is to calm an upset child, here is what you should do:
- Stay By Their Side: If you have to retain them while you are with them so they do not cause injury to themselves or their surroundings, do so, and show you will not tolerate the behavior. Do not belittle them in the process.
- Identify the Trigger: Figuring out what is bothering them can be all it takes to solve a problem if they feel helpless. If they are unable to tell you, a little detective work by looking at their patterns of behavior is a must. What happened before they grew upset? Are they hungry, sleepy, feverish, bored, overstimulated, or exhausted? If they start getting grumpy after half an hour of shopping, it may not help to urge them to go longer than that constantly. Additionally, talking it out when they can state what is wrong can do wonders in getting them to calm down. Sometimes they may not want to talk with you; but they could be willing to talk to a pet, toy, or imaginary friend if you suggest it while you are together.
- React to Their Anger:In the end, you want to ease your child so they can get past the anger without holding it in. It could mean speaking to an unfair teacher, offer direct or indirect help or finding out of you may be contributing to their anger.
What Are Other Tips?
- Praise Positive Behavior: If they are good, you should let your child know you are aware when they are. They are more willing to behave or calm down of they know you will react positively when they do.
- Provide Them with Affection and Comfort:Maybe this is a given, but it can be overlooked. Let your little one know you care for their feelings or their situation. Your presence and comforting words alone can be all it takes to get them to relax. Hugs and kisses are powerful!
- Be Someone that Sets a Good Example: Kids are the most adorable miniature versions of ourselves; they will not only look like us, but they can behave like us too through mimicry. The way you react when you are upset or frustrated will be what they do too. Show model coping skills that they can follow too any time they are mad.
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March 27, 2018
this helped so much with my angry small boy. thanks so much